ALL I WANT FOR CHRISTMAS AND BIRTHDAY!!!
IS IT A CLOSET OR A CLOTHING SHOP....2013 VISIONS
Tuesday, December 25, 2012
RJ Benjamin on the Streets of Jozi
I was doing a Creative Writing Course in Newtown during Joy Of Jazz l bumped in to Songwriter,Producer, Singer RJ Benjamin.
Arise Africa Fashion Show at NYFashion Week
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| Me in Abigail Bertz... |
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| My Seat at NYFashionWeek |
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| Jewel By Lisa..... |
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| Wearing Nigerian Designer Tiffany Amber wt her.. |
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| More Designers... |
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| Me,David and Tyson.... |
David Tlale NYC 2009
Arise Africa Fashion
I was part of Arise Africa Fashion Week in 2009 September it was a great opportunity to witness the birthof the excitement about African Fashion which the world is enjoying now. I'm really proud of African Designers like JBL,TiffanyAmber, Thula Sindi,DavidTlale ChristyBrown and more who I've enjoyed pieces the past few years.
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Penny Eats Cake
Christmas Eve...Motherhood and Family
24 December 2012..
The day before my birthday was spent with me trying to figure what do I really wanna do on Christmas Day. The deal was we will spend time at my house by the garden nothing hectic just immediate family the last time the plan was discussed. Enters the Matriarch of my family that's my mom her plans change any time. Before you know it the whole clan will be descending on my well manicured garden, by the way which she supervised that it's in top form and well kept so the will be minimal complaining heard from me. I had to find a way to divert the traffic back to her house were she can be free to direct the party proceedings especially her gran kids. My dad has an insight to this whole thing for Christmas he was in MP l'm sure chilling under a mango tree with my gran dad...
I must confess l am a terrible host of crowds privately okay maybe crowds is an over exaggeration. The older l get the more quite time in my house has become priceless. The school holidays have revealed that to me more than ever before. I spent a few days with just me and my two kids without the nanny or my mom or any help for the 1st time l wanted to strangle my little people. The most precious gifts to me for those few days felt like they belonged to someone else, the bickering, fighting about everything and nothing, brushing their teeth, bathing, getting dressed, eating, tv, toys, you name it they fought about it. Oh and my little girl who turned four on the 06.12.12 was a little drama queen it was just an episode l tell you. So when checking my email subscriptions l came across an article about sibling rivalry you can imagine how serious l looked in to it, my question was will this eventually stop? what am l doing wrong? is the something I can do.
Before it get's to full blown Sibling rivalry l got myself informed...
http://www.medicaldaily.com/articles/13604/20121221/unresolved-sibling-rivalry-lead-anxiety-depression.htm
Also went on further so to know what to do, please feel free to share your experience as well...
Fighting among siblings is as natural as the changing of the seasons. And contrary to what many parents believe, sibling rivalry is a sign of mental health in a family. While there may be times when it's difficult to deal with, there are some simple things you can do to limit fighting and make it tolerable.
Maybe l'm just to cautious about the emotional health of my kids cos of my experiences with Mental Health but l tell you when the whole family is together observe you might pick up some hidden things that go as far as childhood..
The Phly One....aka Yummy Mummy
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| The Garden For The Christmas Braai.. |
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| I'm gonna lay hands on them l tell you... |
Before it get's to full blown Sibling rivalry l got myself informed...
http://www.medicaldaily.com/articles/13604/20121221/unresolved-sibling-rivalry-lead-anxiety-depression.htm
Also went on further so to know what to do, please feel free to share your experience as well...
Fighting among siblings is as natural as the changing of the seasons. And contrary to what many parents believe, sibling rivalry is a sign of mental health in a family. While there may be times when it's difficult to deal with, there are some simple things you can do to limit fighting and make it tolerable.
- Ignore their fighting
Fighting is often a way for kids to get you to notice them. If you ignore their fighting (unless weapons are involved) there will be less incentive for them to do it. - Treat your kids the same when it comes to fighting.
If you get into who started things, you may be training your kids to be victims and bullies. Put them in the same boat and don't take sides. - Give your kids positive reinforcement when they're cooperating.
Let them know that they're doing a wonderful job when they get along. This one's easy to forget, but vitally important. Give them attention when they're behaving the way you want. Continually telling them to stop may actually be creating more fighting! - Limit your own fighting and arguing.
Your kids will learn how to be peaceful from you. Don't expect them to do it well if you don't show them how. - Create an environment of cooperation.
Do projects together as a family that involve cooperation. Talk about how important it is for the family to cooperate. Avoid games or activities that promote fighting or excessive competition in your kids. - Train your kids in peacemaking when they're away from conflict.
Talk to your kids about fighting at a time when they're relaxed and open. Ask them about what other options they might have taken, rather than to hit their sister. Help them to brainstorm better solutions. - Avoid punishing your kids in general.
Punishing kids usually just creates angry kids who are more likely to fight. While some consequences are inevitable, do your best to give choices and alternatives. Punishment may bring short term solutions, but will also bring long term problems. - Control how you react to their fighting.
When you must intervene, make sure you stay calm. If you're angry and shaming, you actually make it more likely that fighting will occur again. - Limit the number of fighting opportunities you give your kids.
Think about what has the potential to start fights. Don't buy a red ball and a blue ball, this can easily result in a fight by your kids. Buy two red balls - no fight. Be familiar with the times in which fighting occurs the most - when they’re hungry or tired. Take precautions, like having dinner ready before the "bewitching hour" occurs. - Love your kids for all they're worth.
Every day, tell them you love them, and more importantly, show them. Kids who feel emotionally connected to their parents are the least likely to fight. This won't eliminate it, but the alternative isn't pretty at all. - Encouraging love and forgiveness
- A note from the teacher: When your child misbehaves
- Building moral intelligence: Seven ways to nurture tolerance in children
- More parenting articles and features at SheKnows.com
Good luck! 
Here are some more articles you might be interested in:
About the author: Mark Brandenburg MA, CPCC, coaches busy parents by phone to balance their life and improve their family relationships. For a free twenty minute sample session by phone; a ecourse, ebooks, courses, articles, and a freenewsletter, go to www.markbrandenburg.com or email him.
Maybe l'm just to cautious about the emotional health of my kids cos of my experiences with Mental Health but l tell you when the whole family is together observe you might pick up some hidden things that go as far as childhood..
The Phly One....aka Yummy Mummy
Sunday, December 23, 2012
From Five to Ten the Why...Radio Heads
Top 5 Radio Jocks ..is what l was asked to share but l believe in perfection, 10 is a number of perfection an Radio for me is just that perfect when in order and it's a theatre of the mind in it's real essence! Dj's, Presenters and Hosts be aware what and who's on your radio at any given time.
With over 15 years in the entertainment industry l am sure l can get away with a list of the best radio jocks. I must confess of late it's painful listening to radio it's just not inspiring, people are just trying to hard to be relevant without authenticity. At most the sound of radio now is copy cats and dogs with no tails driven by ego without depth.
My list will be based on what the DJ's and Radio Presenters brought on air. Please note there is a difference between a DJ's,Presenters and Radio Hosts style of delivering radio.
1. Kansas City - Personality Gang (PG rated)
Personality for me is the best asset any on air person should bring to the table plenty of it, real personality not pseudo on stuff, engaging the person l would like to hang with cos the will be no dull moment very colorful and anything can happen. Almost out of control approach ruled kinda don't apply here.
With over 15 years in the entertainment industry l am sure l can get away with a list of the best radio jocks. I must confess of late it's painful listening to radio it's just not inspiring, people are just trying to hard to be relevant without authenticity. At most the sound of radio now is copy cats and dogs with no tails driven by ego without depth.
My list will be based on what the DJ's and Radio Presenters brought on air. Please note there is a difference between a DJ's,Presenters and Radio Hosts style of delivering radio.
1. Kansas City - Personality Gang (PG rated)
Personality for me is the best asset any on air person should bring to the table plenty of it, real personality not pseudo on stuff, engaging the person l would like to hang with cos the will be no dull moment very colorful and anything can happen. Almost out of control approach ruled kinda don't apply here.
Kansas City was the epitome of that fr me on radio,tv and off. He inspired a style of motor mouths on radio that would keep any listener one their toes. Most African language station have that guy who's like that on their morning or afternoon drive.
The names that come to mind here are Chomane Chomane on Lesedi, Brian at Mungana Lo Nene, Gareth Cliff, Glen Lewis alone on the afternoon drive, Anele Mdoda her early days at Highveld as the evening host wt Grant as a sidekick. Twasa on Lesedi afternoon drive and Dineo Ranaka on Drive. Mark Gilman 5fm breakfast show.
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| Bongani Kansas City Mchunu was Radio Zulu's king once upon a time before it was Ukhozi. |
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| Dineo was on too something... |
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| Gareth is Howard Stern's Stan!!! |
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| She's been shocking listeners from day one and now she's doing it on TV! No female can get away with it SA cos managers on stations have no balls to back a girl up. |
Mind Set : Shock Jock territory here most make a concerted effort to be shocking whilst most are just shocking by what they are able to say if you listen closely.
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| Most radio dj's try to hard to emulate this man it's not not possible cos he's not acting it's who he is! |
2. Khabzela - individuality they stand alone!
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| Man On A Mission, Short Life With Impact! |
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| Think Khabzela and his YPG, Prison Letters! |
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| The Radio Big League Is For The Big Boys! And A Few Girls! |
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| Bob at Bop, The Jammer at Radio Metro, Uncle Bob on Kaya FM... |
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| Pushing an agenda through and through... |
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| He's changed radio contracts more than any one else l know...Phat Joe |
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| Mr Mafutha Jams... |
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| Took Celebrity News to new heights... |
3. Grant Shakoane - The Lover.... M.I.O - radio concept and audience connection via music.
Grant is the king of smooth, Eddi Zondi, Wilson B Nkosi, Msizi Shembe, even Thabo Mokwele are a product of a guy who plays for the ladies and men love him for it. The are the alter ego of every men who listen to radio the plus is the do it in broad day light not as late nite jocks. Music is their poison and they say the simplest things over and over again and play the same music but people keep coming back for more torture! Now that's a skill! This guys are responsible for a lot of heartaches, heartbreaks and heart attacks even because at one point or another they messing with someone's heart strings via their "Lover Boy'' Ladies Man" voice that can make any man feel inadequate and most women believe they are the perfect man they should be with! Dangerous stuff but very good for ratings especially late nite and Sundays.
imaginary Boyfriends Brigade!
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| 1st Generation....Grant is the guy in the blue shirt, now don't ask me how he did it with the ladies! |
The Heir still standing.... Eddie Zondi baby.
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| The Spare watching closely...Wilson B Nkosi Poetry in Motion.. |
4.Shado Twala - Breaking Stereotypes - Beautiful and Brainy Bunch
Femininity, depth,culture consciousness, original with estrogen.
Only few women get on radio and give the boys a run for their money with sass and depth at the same time. To cut across relevance,content,authority, influence with personal style as girls takes guts and nerves of steel in a world full of testosterone .. Shado leads the pack hands down for me Zandile Nzalo was that at Radio Bop! Kgomotso Moeketsi, Redi Thlabi, Lethabo on Thobela, Ursula Chikane as Brown Suga on5fm, Zuraida, Twasa and Anele, Lee Kasumba still sit in this group the only thing that stopped most of this women from prime time and equal pay was male ego's, but someone like Anele is a benefactor of the force that started way back.
These are radio personalities not chicks on air or pretty women on radio they meant and mean business from day 1. My personal hero"s the just stand out without trying!
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| Her Majesty.... |
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| She brings it on, just ask any Politician... |
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Ursula with the same style and grace but don't be fooled by the look....she's hard! |
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| Breaking New Ground On Drive... |
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| Don't mess with KG... |
5. Ian Segola - dance music king/ international boys
The ultimate club jocks on radio, hits after hit they can get any one on the dance floor whilst live on the radio, Evidence Kemp on Metro Fm was the guy who's playlist you can trust every Friday nite. Oskido is the new generation king of that, they play the dance tunes but their personality also get's you hooked they also have the ability and depth to cultivate a new sound from their own back yards.
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| Oskido....
The is truly remarkable – more so if you consider he was
selling hot dogs,boerewors rolls outside a nite club in Hilbrow in the early ‘90’s
when he was invited to come play the closing session, talk about ready for your
break. Oskido also received his first club experience in 1988 under the
guidance of a master.. Ian Segola.
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6.Ben Dikobe and George Manyosi - best combo and synergy
On air collaborations are just stuff of genius they can't be manufactured they either work or not. Personally l make a terrible co's my mind is at a speed of it's own. Co hosting is about two people who know what's going on in the other's head because for the listener it must flow and complete a thought, it's not about arguments on radio as l've heard some collaborations, bad if it's a male vs female it's unattractive it kinda get's every one listening in a bad mood too. Ben and George on the Jolly Good Show were the epitome of synergised thinking radio, Anele and Grant who l still feel left me hanging cos of how special their combination was. Another unfished story is Fresh and Thato should have gone together to 5fm, Unathi and Rude Boy Paul also had great sparks. Think Tom and Jerry, Bonnie and Clyde type of a thing when the left and right brain work on a a radio. Match made in radio heaven.
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| George Manyosi currently on Kaya Fm. |
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| Ben Dikobe is a special ingredient.... |
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| Sizwe and Scoop are that bad combo it works..... |
7. Vusi Letswalo - Smooth Operators
King of the smooth the musical doctor himself, he's the reason behind the smooth day time boys, Bad Boy T is another, Mo Flava is a great contender in the current SO's, these bunch are just naturals on being smooth, they are your trusted radio presenters not dj's get that right no highs or low's here they just flow like a river in one direction almost perfect in a way. It almost feels like they are prone though to being too content it's kinda difficult to find fault with them. This guys have had proper role models lsaak Phaahla, Ernest Pillay still smooth to this day. The girls who have given the boys a run in this group are Miss E, Brenda Sisane, Bertha Charuma and Metro Fm's Azania.
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| Young Edgy Bad Boy hungry... |
vs
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| Nerdy Mature Thomas... you choose |
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| The Future Of Smooth Operations... |
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| Still Going Strong... |
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| Boogie Babe now with Radio2000 in black.. |
8. Tim Modise - Talk Radio
The masters of talk on urban radio have been legendary in their own right, they make sense of some senseless content to the urban audience with such panache. Tim broke no sweat with talk , Lawrence Dube was the epitome calm behind the mic driving a conversation with a lot of soul connection, Given Mkhari a hip hop head turned business men did it with swag, Thabiso Sikwane on KayaFm brought the awkward family conversations to your car every evening and you found yourself part of a problem out side of yourself. Pity she chose her home over the Kaya Fm listener.
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| Home with bo Mkaya VS |
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| Home with home boy! |
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| No breaking a sweat on tough issues... |
9. Lady D - Dudu Khoza - Radio Cultish Behavior Captains
challenges of life.
10. Max Mojapelo - The Count Down Royalty!
Pace set's apart a radio count down, even not packaged the show gotta hold suspense until you get to the No1 song with drops and picks in presentation as the songs change positions too. The count down is for master creatives with skill Max Mojapelo on Thobela could sell you any artist on any given Saturday, Sammy T on the Coca Cola Top 40 on Metro Fm would make any one want a Coke, Tich Mataz is another on Radio Bop if l remember well. Ursula Stepfelt now Chikane made it rain with hot hits too on 5fm.
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| Max The Mixer On Thobela FM! |
Others ... Presenting the current possible future....
Worth noting those who have presence on radio via other platforms and personal brands that create a keen interest on them on the airwaves.
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| He's back on Umhlobo KC... |
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| He's driving Ligwala gwal audiences... |
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| He's been every where.. Metro Fm, Yfm, Ukhozi he keeps popping up. |
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| Limpopo's own bad boy... Thobela FM, Capricon Fm maybe GP will be next.. |
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| He was the next Khabzela most believed then he joined Ukhozi Fm back to YFM now he's on Metro Fm weekend let's see what's next. |
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| Pabi started at Highveld, |
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| SA VS USA - Jozi or New York decisions, decisions time will tell. |
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| From Trafffic Girl to News Reader, Radio Prenter and Club Dj she means business. |
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| Your Girl B on radio anything is possible l'm watching closely... |
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| The hips don't lie but can she really hold it down on air it's still the early days... How bright is the future of radio? |
There you have it, my thoughts feel free to share yours and disagree with me, who know's we might just inspire a whole new generation of radio heads!
The Phly One...
The Phly One...
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